Emotional Intelligence and the Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur

Emotional Intelligence is a skill set that the ‘NFP’ temperament (intuitive, feeler, perceiver) excels at and is one of the major gifts of the highly sensitive entrepreneur and artist. Empathy is at the core of emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is a tool used by corporations today especially for those businesses who work with the Creative Class.

In his chapter titled “The Roots of Empathy”, author Daniel Goleman in his #1 bestseller “Emotional Intelligence” describes how people with empathy are more sensitive. Here is an excerpt from this chapter:

“In tests with over seven thousand people in the United States and eighteen other countries, the benefits of being able to read feelings from non verbal clues included being better adjusted emotionally, more popular, more outgoing, and -perhaps not surprisingly – more sensitive. In keeping with findings about other elements of emotional intelligence, there was only an incidental relationship between scores on this measure of empathic acuity and SAT or IQ scores or school achievement tests. Empathy’s independence from the academic intelligence has been found too in testing with a version of the PONS designed for children. In tests with 1,011 children, those who showed an aptitude for reading feelings nonverbally were among the most popular in their schools, and the most emotionally stable. They also did better in school, even though, on average, their IQs were not higher than those of children who were less skilled at reading nonverbal messages…”(pg. 97)

Here’s another excerpt about emotional intelligence from bestselling author Robert Greene in his book “Mastery”:

“In our culture we tend to equate thinking and intellectual powers with success and achievement. In many ways, however, it is an emotional quality that separates those who master a field from the many who simply work at a job. Our levels of desire, patience, persistence, and confidence end up playing a much larger role in success than sheer reasoning powers. Feeling motivated and energized, we can overcome almost anything.” (pg. 12)

In “The Sacred Balance” authors David Suzuki and Amanda McConnell have this to say about the heart:

“In every human society one overwhelming need directs the development of every individual. According to Ashley Montagu, for an adequate healthy development, “the human infant requires beyond all else, a great deal of tender loving care. Health at a very minimum is the ability to love, to work, to play, and to think soundly. The infant’s need for love is critical, and its satisfaction necessary if the infant is to grow and develop as healthy human being.” Numerous studies indicate that love is an essential part of a child’s upbringing from birth; it helps the individual to thrive, while it teaches the qualities necessary for belonging to a wider community. Being loved teaches us how to love, how to imagine and feel for another person’s existence, how to share and cooperate. Without these skills, how long could any group of humans survive together? In its purest form, the bond between parent and infant illustrates love’s remarkable property of reciprocity. The joy of unconditional parental love is fully returned by the object of that love.”(pg. 158)